Don't get married IF...

Today I write with a lot of pain, hearing stories of married friends who have gone separate ways. When these things happen, I have learnt never to take sides or to point a finger to any party because irrespective of what you may see, it is often hard to get the big picture, the true picture, if you are not in the marriage, in the home, living with the couple – and even if you are, sometimes, that doesn’t give you the full picture.

However, in discussing some of the issues with a friend, I feel that there is little useful information on key issues involving marriage, and on the core details around areas like sex, money, kids, in-laws, planning, people seem to be very quiet. The plethora of books around talk about love languages and keeping passion alive – but you cannot have sex all the time or always come home with a rose in your mouth to delight your spouse. Depending on what part of the world you live in, you may not even have a rose to buy in the first place.

The Church is often quiet on the details of sex, because people get really squeamish about talking about sex, but the Bible clearly says that older women should teach younger women how to love their husbands because the FACT is that great sex requires good TECHNIQUE and practise with your spouse and proper technique comes with guidance, and that is what makes pornography so stupid; the ways the people are pleasured on the screen will likely NOT be what pleases your partner and you will need to find out, IN marriage, the unique combination of stimulation or actions that please your spouse.

Insight

I got into the office smiling, totally unaware of what lay in store for me. First it started with the tea lady who missed a step and poured a hot cup of black coffee on my trousers. I had yelped in pain, jumping up from my seat and had hit a colleague’s laptop right off the desk onto the floor and none of us needed a diviner to know the screen had cracked.

The problem was that it was that system that had the financials that my colleague had been working on for the presentation to be held that morning to the board at 9.45am. The time was 8.30am and there was no way in hell we could put it together on time on another system, considering it had taken 4 days to put the numbers together. Of course, the presentation went pear-shaped. My boss, Keith, tried the best he could to improvise after explaining to the board the unfortunate incidence. While a very tiny part of me was happy that he was under fire, since it’s not like he’s a nice guy, I felt really bad for him at the moment. The board had shredded him. Somehow, these old men in horn-rimmed glasses and pot-bellies appeared to expect him to have every detail of the financial reports, which was about 15 slides, all in his head.

They shredded him…and he shredded us – but I had had enough for one day…

Shine in my Light (Acoustic Guitar Video) - XTsamurai

Kissing Snakes: My book is now available in eBook format!

After a lot of feedback and request from people who read and enjoyed the "Kissing Snake" series, I have taken time to work on creating an eBook out of it.

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Many thanks for all the encouraging feedback.
Enjoy...